One day Mr. Stovall told me, “The worst beating I ever took was from M.C. Nickel.” That was unbelievable! “How could M.C. Nickel beat you up?” was my question. Stovall went on to explain, “Before going on a trip, I gave M.C. a project that had to be done while was I away. When I returned home, I checked on this project and it had not been done. I was furious, so when I saw M.C., I jumped on him with both feet verbally. During the tongue lashing, M.C. was calm. After I finished saying my piece, M.C. told me why the project had not been done. He was absolutely correct in not doing it. That was the worst beating I ever took.”
And speaking of jumping to conclusions ... One day I brought home a car that I thought would be a good purchase. I am the type of person who can talk myself into a need when in reality it is only a wish. So when I brought home this car, I made a presentation to Karen as to why this car would be great for us. We talked about the car and its merits. Later that day, I purchased the car and when I brought it home, Karen was upset. I was blown away. I thought her discussing the car meant that I should buy it!!! She never said, “Bill, let’s buy this car.” It was my wrong assumption. Just because we discuss something doesn’t mean the other person is in agreement or that we should act on it.
It is true that one of the reasons we misread our partner or others is because we hear what we want to hear. Just because our partner says she likes such and such doesn’t mean for us to run out and buy it. We really need to check out the next step with them.