After much discussion, our group drew the picture
of what we thought was on the puzzle box. I was convinced that our small
group had drawn the correct picture because I believed we had
discovered the right clues.
all the groups were finished drawing, each presented their picture and
told why they thought they had the correct clues. Then the chaplain
showed us the puzzle box picture.
were shocked! We had completely missed it! How could we be so wrong? It
was obvious that we had misread the clues; consequently, we had an
inaccurate understanding of the big picture. Each of us may have the
wrong picture of life because we misread the clues! If we have a
distorted view of what life is, we may be missing a happy and satisfying
Each of us
may have the wrong picture of life
because we misread the clues!
the seminar, we were wondering if we had an accurate picture of life,
ourselves, and others. One insight gained from this seminar was that not
only can individuals be wrong about life's puzzle box top, but so can
whole groups of people! So, the question that challenges us is: How do
we know if we have the right clues?
we have chosen the wrong clues, there is a huge chance that we have
misread the actions of others towards us and have formed a false picture
of who they are. The danger is that we are letting a hurtful action
toward us say everything about that person. We mistakenly believe that
harmful action is their life's puzzle-box top.
When we focus on
how someone has hurt or disappointed us, we can be tempted to think of
them as being evil with the worst possible intentions. By focusing on
our hurt, we may be missing the other clues that point to good things
the person has done.
could have the wrong clues about others, about ourselves and about life
because of our insecurities, our unrealistic expectations, and
prejudices. These things can cloud our ability to select the correct
clues. The result is that we will draw the wrong picture of life's
And so, we come back to the original question: How do we know when we have the right clues?